25 March 2015

15 life lessons I would tell my younger self.

Do you think, if you ever got to sit down in front of your younger self, there would be anything you would tell them, encourage them to do, discourage them from doing or just let them in on any secrets?

There is so much I would tell my young self, so much I have learnt from my mere 26 years on Earth. And I can imagine that in another 26 years time, I would have learnt even more life lessons.

Life is about learning, and we have to go through crap in order to be able recognise and appreciate the good times. But nevertheless, I would still want to give myself the following important pieces of life advice. Just to make it that little bit easier, and maybe to help those of you that may not be coping with the struggles of growing up.

1. Care less about what other people think of you. They don't care as much as you think they do, really they don't.

2. Follow your passions. Don't get stuck doing something you absolutely hate.  It's a waste of time, and ultimately a waste of a life. Do what you love to do. Find your calling and follow it to the ends of the earth.

3. Don't be a sheep.  Sure, you want to fit in at school and not stick out like a sore thumb but as you get older you will realise that being your own person and being true to yourself is far more important. You have to love yourself before anyone can love you.

4. Surround yourself with people that make you happy. It's okay, in fact it is vital that you get rid of negativity in your life.  If that means ditching those 'friends' that fail to pick you up when you are down, cause you to feel like crap and just don't make you happy, then do it.  And don't feel guilty about doing it.

5. Be positive. Positivity is the root of happiness. Happiness is the meaning of life. Moan less, only talk about good things, and wake up without feeling dread for the day ahead.

6. Bad things will happen.  It's inevitable that bad things will happen in your life, and most of these things are likely to happen at a young age (even though you may think they are bad things, as you get older you will realise that being dumped by your 11 year old 'boyfriend' that you never actually spoke to does not constitute itself as a bad thing).  But these things are important as we learn so much from them and they make us better/stronger people.

7. ..But don't worry. Worrying won't stop the bad stuff from happening, it will just stop you from enjoying the good.

8. Appreciate those you love.  Find the people you love and never stop loving them because one day they wont be around anymore and the one thing you will regret the most is not spending enough time with them.

9. Push yourself. 'Feel the fear and do it anyway', one of my favourite mottos. The best way to build your confidence is to jump in head first.

10. Don't rush important decisions. Take your time, think things through.  If you can, mull over a big decision for a couple of weeks.  Ultimately, listen to your gut, learn to read your inner feelings.

11. It's okay not to know what you want from life. Want to build a big career? want to settle down and start a family? or do you just want to travel the world? If you don't know what you want to do with your life it's okay.  You have time to work it out, not everybody knows that they want to be a doctor at the age of 5.

12. Travel often. See the world, as much of it as you can. Learn about other cultures, other people and other religions.

13. Live your life to the fullest. Everyday. We aren't here very long so enjoy it, and that means enjoying every moment of your day, your week, your life. Say YES more often and take all those amazing opportunities being thrown at you.

14. Remember your age. Act your age and not 10 years older. Enjoy your youth as much as you can, as you wont be getting that back again. Don't grow up too fast.

15. It gets better.  Growing up is hard and everyone has to go through it but trust me, life gets easier. If you are anything like me, nothing beats the feeling of feeling settled and secure. Once you get there, all your hard work has paid off.


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